Tim Chevalier has a lot of important things to say about how supposedly impartial rationality is used as a mask for emotion, and on how the charge of being emotional is used by privileged people to suppress and deflect things they’re afraid to hear. It’s worth reading. At the end of the piece, he asks an important question:
Can we view reason and logic as tools for accomplishing goals that our emotions guide us to, rather than letting our emotions govern us by pretending they don’t exist?
We’re always guided by our emotions; the question is whether we can admit it.